The Facts on Near-Death Experiences (Harvest House, 1996) pp. 26-27
What are the day-to-day consequences of many NDEs?
People who have NDEs need understanding and sympathy because, for many, life becomes more difficult—sometimes even miserable. So many NDErs are having difficulties that researchers are now turning to an examination of this problem and looking for ways to help people with the psychological and other problems resulting from their NDEs.*
Based on her own negative experience and those of the participants in her 1988 study, Atwater argues that NDErs get enraptured by the profundity of the experience, become disoriented and confused, wrapped up in themselves, and become, to varying degrees, unable to respond to the needs of others. She suggests that the love NDErs bring back is not love as commonly understood. Rather it is an impersonal detachment or sentimental emotionalism which can interfere with people’s ability to personalize their feelings. The love these people mystically encounter, seemingly in harmony with the occult flavor of their NDE, is the kind of impersonal love spoken of in Eastern mystical experience (as in Hinduism and Buddhism). Atwater states: “The kind of love encounter[ed] in dying is not emotional….It is not personal….[It] is more…a transcended state of existence….This kind of love flows through you, not from or to you….This love, true love…makes no demand and seeks no response. It welcomes all and denies none….Existence in this kind of love dissolves all emotion, feelings, needs, and relationships.”*
*For full documentation, please see The Facts on Near-Death Experiences.